Comments on: Facebook is Fading (for me) http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/ Edge Case, Community Builder, Tinkerer, and Teacher Mon, 13 Oct 2008 05:00:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Mike http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52502 Mike Tue, 22 Jan 2008 06:21:51 +0000 http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52502 Hmm, I started on Facebook and lost interest pretty quickly. No, let me amend that: I never really got started, I just dipped a toe in and have not been back in a couple of months. Maybe I'm too old. But I think it's more about reaching a point where I focus on fewer people and deeper relationships, and there is always the off-line life. Also, I've got kids. Twitter is more immediate. RSS feeds are more thoughtful. Email is more detailed. IM or phone are more personal. Having a beer/coffee/Coke/water together is the most personal. And they are all tiers of the social network, ranging from acquainted-stranger to spouse, and they all have their place in the relationships we keep. As for MySpace, it's trashy, but I've been running a page there for one of my child's high school performance groups for about four months and the page is doing a pretty good job of connecting the performers and their audience. Of course, I have a personal page there that I started to check up on my kids and their friends, but I don't show up there more than a couple of times a month to make sure it has not been hacked. Lastly, WillPS has a point, your blog has changed. But I think the blog has changed for the better, social networking and Internet life seem to be your new focus. The blog has changed as your interests have grown. Gadgets do not hold the same priority as they used to at tinyscreenfuls, but other aspects of a tinyscreenful are being covered on a regular basis. I, for one, like the shift, and I like gadgets, too. Hmm, I started on Facebook and lost interest pretty quickly. No, let me amend that: I never really got started, I just dipped a toe in and have not been back in a couple of months.

Maybe I’m too old. But I think it’s more about reaching a point where I focus on fewer people and deeper relationships, and there is always the off-line life. Also, I’ve got kids.

Twitter is more immediate. RSS feeds are more thoughtful. Email is more detailed. IM or phone are more personal. Having a beer/coffee/Coke/water together is the most personal. And they are all tiers of the social network, ranging from acquainted-stranger to spouse, and they all have their place in the relationships we keep.

As for MySpace, it’s trashy, but I’ve been running a page there for one of my child’s high school performance groups for about four months and the page is doing a pretty good job of connecting the performers and their audience. Of course, I have a personal page there that I started to check up on my kids and their friends, but I don’t show up there more than a couple of times a month to make sure it has not been hacked.

Lastly, WillPS has a point, your blog has changed. But I think the blog has changed for the better, social networking and Internet life seem to be your new focus. The blog has changed as your interests have grown. Gadgets do not hold the same priority as they used to at tinyscreenfuls, but other aspects of a tinyscreenful are being covered on a regular basis.

I, for one, like the shift, and I like gadgets, too.

]]> By: sion http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52490 sion Tue, 22 Jan 2008 02:52:25 +0000 http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52490 Just a thought, but I've found that a lot of people (myself included) sign up for these social networks expecting to all of a sudden be in constant contact with all of our long lost friends and hear all kinds of interesting things about what they are doing (not to mention a little time for bragging rights of our own). The missing link: you have to send a message to get one in return. Of course doing this seems like all kinds of fun initially but as time goes on we realize that it's just a whole lot of work to keep in constant communication with a ton of people we don't see every day. I think the big issue is that each of us has a limit to the number of things or people we can really give our attention to in any given day and I don't know about you but 400 is way beyond my daily limit. Perhaps you should use twitter or some other resource to stay in daily communication with those people who are a part of your everyday life and turn to facebook as a novelty thing once a week or once a month. Then you can scroll through your list of friends and get an update from a few of them once in awhile. I don't think you can expect much more then that from an online social network. Sion Just a thought, but I’ve found that a lot of people (myself included) sign up for these social networks expecting to all of a sudden be in constant contact with all of our long lost friends and hear all kinds of interesting things about what they are doing (not to mention a little time for bragging rights of our own).

The missing link: you have to send a message to get one in return. Of course doing this seems like all kinds of fun initially but as time goes on we realize that it’s just a whole lot of work to keep in constant communication with a ton of people we don’t see every day.

I think the big issue is that each of us has a limit to the number of things or people we can really give our attention to in any given day and I don’t know about you but 400 is way beyond my daily limit.

Perhaps you should use twitter or some other resource to stay in daily communication with those people who are a part of your everyday life and turn to facebook as a novelty thing once a week or once a month. Then you can scroll through your list of friends and get an update from a few of them once in awhile. I don’t think you can expect much more then that from an online social network.

Sion

]]> By: WillPS http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52449 WillPS Mon, 21 Jan 2008 18:28:05 +0000 http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52449 Josh, When are you actually going to publish anything related to this blog's title, "Tiny Screenfuls". I found this place when I was looking into buying my Dell Axim, way back in 2005. Back then there would be a healthy amount of small-gadget related content, interspersed with an acceptable amount of gooey stuff and rants (which you can expect of a blog). Now though, whenever I turn up I mainly just see total non-news and other garbage. I understand that you are very proud of your family and yes in small doses it shows a more human side to you. But this site has kind of lost its way somewhat. Are you officially not fussed about gadgets any more? Frankly I want less human and more gadget-time robot opinions! Haven't you got another blog thats about your family? I mean it seems a bit silly having that and then posts on what's supposed to be a techno-blog aswell. Sorry if I appear to be harsh, but I did used to really enjoy perusing through your blog from time-to-time, but these days it just seems a bit too slushy and without a purpose. If I were you I'd redefine your remit and then at least your blog viewers will come knowing what to expect. If this is now your personal web home (with gadgets playing only a very minor part) then pardon me =). William x Josh,
When are you actually going to publish anything related to this blog’s title, “Tiny Screenfuls”. I found this place when I was looking into buying my Dell Axim, way back in 2005. Back then there would be a healthy amount of small-gadget related content, interspersed with an acceptable amount of gooey stuff and rants (which you can expect of a blog).

Now though, whenever I turn up I mainly just see total non-news and other garbage. I understand that you are very proud of your family and yes in small doses it shows a more human side to you. But this site has kind of lost its way somewhat. Are you officially not fussed about gadgets any more? Frankly I want less human and more gadget-time robot opinions! Haven’t you got another blog thats about your family? I mean it seems a bit silly having that and then posts on what’s supposed to be a techno-blog aswell.

Sorry if I appear to be harsh, but I did used to really enjoy perusing through your blog from time-to-time, but these days it just seems a bit too slushy and without a purpose. If I were you I’d redefine your remit and then at least your blog viewers will come knowing what to expect. If this is now your personal web home (with gadgets playing only a very minor part) then pardon me =).

William x

]]> By: Josh Bancroft http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52278 Josh Bancroft Fri, 18 Jan 2008 18:46:06 +0000 http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52278 @Jeff - Heh. My rule for Twitter is I don't add people if I have to think for more than half a second "who is this person?" You pass Josh's Twitter Test, so you're safe. :-) @Jeff - Heh. My rule for Twitter is I don’t add people if I have to think for more than half a second “who is this person?” You pass Josh’s Twitter Test, so you’re safe. :-)

]]> By: Jeff the Great http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52276 Jeff the Great Fri, 18 Jan 2008 18:38:36 +0000 http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52276 good plan, Josh. But does that mean I am removed from your Twitter feed? Hahaha, carefuly what I wish for, eh! good plan, Josh. But does that mean I am removed from your Twitter feed? Hahaha, carefuly what I wish for, eh!

]]> By: Josh Bancroft http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52275 Josh Bancroft Fri, 18 Jan 2008 17:46:31 +0000 http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52275 @Jeff You're right. It is my own fault. :-) I adopted an "accept everyone" approach on Facebook, as an experiment. And now I can see the results are "bleh". So I'm going to ga back through with a different approach, similar to what I've done on Twitter. I'm only keeping friends that I've met in real life, or have some other real, significant connection to. Not saying one approach to Facebook friending is right or wrong, but I'm going to switch tactics and see what happens. Wish me luck, and please, no one take offense if I remove you as a Facebook friend! It's nothing personal, and if we ever meet, I'll be happy to re-add you! :-) @Jeff You’re right. It is my own fault. :-) I adopted an “accept everyone” approach on Facebook, as an experiment. And now I can see the results are “bleh”. So I’m going to ga back through with a different approach, similar to what I’ve done on Twitter. I’m only keeping friends that I’ve met in real life, or have some other real, significant connection to. Not saying one approach to Facebook friending is right or wrong, but I’m going to switch tactics and see what happens.

Wish me luck, and please, no one take offense if I remove you as a Facebook friend! It’s nothing personal, and if we ever meet, I’ll be happy to re-add you! :-)

]]> By: NatzG http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52203 NatzG Thu, 17 Jan 2008 14:47:35 +0000 http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52203 MySpace irritates me beyond belief, but like you, it's essentially because it's an eyesore and it's participants seem to take great joy in making it even uglier. Facebook...never became addicted as such, but I do like it for linking my family together who are spread across the globe. And it's a really easy way to share photo's with select groups. And of course for Scrabulous, which seems to go in fits and starts for me. MySpace irritates me beyond belief, but like you, it’s essentially because it’s an eyesore and it’s participants seem to take great joy in making it even uglier. Facebook…never became addicted as such, but I do like it for linking my family together who are spread across the globe. And it’s a really easy way to share photo’s with select groups. And of course for Scrabulous, which seems to go in fits and starts for me.

]]> By: Jeff the Great http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52173 Jeff the Great Wed, 16 Jan 2008 20:59:33 +0000 http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52173 I think these social networking sites are what you make of it. In other words, it's your own fault. For example, on LinkedIn I am VERY careful with who I connect with. It isn't just a social network for me, it is my professional network. My rule of thumb: If I wouldnt pick up the phone and whole heartidly endorse someone, I don't accept their request. Similar actions for me on Facebook. I only connect with people I actually know...in person! I read Rick Turoczy's blog Silicon Florist. I interact with im on twitter, and sometimes even by email. But he isn't a "friend" (sorry, Rick). So guess what, he isn't a friend of mine on Facebook! Novel concept, I know. But I am not worn out by Facebook or overwhelmed with requests and invitations. It is just a very conveinent way for me to stay in contact with the people I care about. It is what you make of it..... I think these social networking sites are what you make of it. In other words, it’s your own fault.

For example, on LinkedIn I am VERY careful with who I connect with. It isn’t just a social network for me, it is my professional network. My rule of thumb: If I wouldnt pick up the phone and whole heartidly endorse someone, I don’t accept their request.

Similar actions for me on Facebook. I only connect with people I actually know…in person! I read Rick Turoczy’s blog Silicon Florist. I interact with im on twitter, and sometimes even by email. But he isn’t a “friend” (sorry, Rick). So guess what, he isn’t a friend of mine on Facebook!

Novel concept, I know. But I am not worn out by Facebook or overwhelmed with requests and invitations. It is just a very conveinent way for me to stay in contact with the people I care about.

It is what you make of it…..

]]> By: adam http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52171 adam Wed, 16 Jan 2008 20:50:40 +0000 http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52171 yeah, i agree. I hardly use FB any more. I added a load of apps, before finding them thoroughly useless and removing them again. Twitter and RSS keeps me in as much contact as I can handle. You won't be able to remove your FB account even if you wanted to. Your info is theirs, forever. yeah, i agree. I hardly use FB any more. I added a load of apps, before finding them thoroughly useless and removing them again. Twitter and RSS keeps me in as much contact as I can handle. You won’t be able to remove your FB account even if you wanted to. Your info is theirs, forever.

]]> By: Josh Bancroft http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52169 Josh Bancroft Wed, 16 Jan 2008 20:45:56 +0000 http://www.tinyscreenfuls.com/2008/01/facebook-is-fading-for-me/#comment-52169 I never got into MySpace either, but that's just because its so ugly it hurts my eyes. :-) I don't know if it's an age thing. I'm not old! Oh, and get off my grass, you darn kids! ;-) My roots in "the social web", that is, real, fun communities on the internet, go way back. I got heavily involved in the Ars forums in 2001, and that wasn't even the beginning. There were Usenet groups before that... Ah, history! I never got into MySpace either, but that’s just because its so ugly it hurts my eyes. :-)
I don’t know if it’s an age thing. I’m not old! Oh, and get off my grass, you darn kids! ;-)

My roots in “the social web”, that is, real, fun communities on the internet, go way back. I got heavily involved in the Ars forums in 2001, and that wasn’t even the beginning. There were Usenet groups before that…

Ah, history!

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